January 17, 2013

11 Ways to Be More Mindful in Your Work Relationships

Do you know about the marshmallow test? No, it’s not about seeing how many marshmallows you can toast and eat by the fire. It’s the classic Marshmallow Study conducted in 1968 at Stanford University by clinical psychologist Walter Mischel that became one of the longest running experiments in psychology. The initial study examined 600 children to see how they would […]
January 3, 2013

Living in the 4 Rooms of Wellness

This post was inspired by the simple, enduring work by the late author, Rumer Godden whose work has touched many lives with its wisdom. More than ever we understand that life is more than the endless to-do lists and bucket lists we create and then relentlessly pursue to achieve “success.”  As the poet Yeats said, “Life is not a problem to be solved, […]
October 18, 2012

A Deeper Look into our Mental Narratives

No one can harm you , not even your own worst enemy, as much as your own mind untrained. And no one can help you, not even your most loving mother and father, as much as your own mind well-trained. The Buddha Before we begin, let me ask you an important question – what makes your world? I know it’s a […]
July 26, 2012

Redefining Optimism in the Face of Reality

“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn.”                    Alvin Tofler, Futurist Is it bold and daring to be optimistic in these times?  Aurora, Syria, Climate change, High unemployment, EU meltdowns, Wall St. Corruption, LIBOR bank rate rigging – we could fill the page with reasons […]
June 7, 2012

The 5 Habits of an Empathetic Communicator

How we respond to others is largely a function of habit. Many small, repetitive, automatic responses that grow over a long period of time form habits. Mostly, these reactions are outside of our conscious awareness. They’re built on foundations formed by our beliefs, and in most cases, they stayed fixed, usually reinforcing old beliefs and naturally – old habits. Charles […]
March 22, 2012

Envy, Jealousy, Resentment – The "Comparison" Emotions at Work

This article gets lots of hits. In the five + years since it was published, its always in the day’s top views. At times I wonder though – should I be pleased about this – or concerned? Granted, envy, jealousy and resentment are three very powerful feelings. Even the Bible mentions them. Envy and jealousy  are two of the Seven […]
December 1, 2011

Your Business Needs are Not the Same as Your Personal Needs

“People who are in touch with their needs do not make good slaves.”   Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D Needs are basic to life. Everything we feel and do is in service to our needs. In the moment to moment biological imperative to meet our needs we make choices – thousands of choices. Every choice we make is an attempt to satisfy […]
March 14, 2011

Why Do We Continue to Think Self-Compassion is Self-Indulgent?

Writing in her column in the health section (Go Easy on Yourself, a New Wave of Research Suggests) author Tara Parker-Pope wrote, “Do you treat yourself as well as you treat your friends and family? That simple question is the basis for a burgeoning new area of psychological research called self-compassion – how kindly people view themselves.  The research suggests […]
June 24, 2010

Is Self-Deception Keeping You in the Box?

Have you ever wondered if there was a missing ingredient that could improve your relationships – in the workplace and beyond? Well, it wasn’t until we came across the book, Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting out of the Box, written by The Arbinger Institute, that we were able to put our finger on an important part of the puzzle.  – Self […]