September 24, 2015

Patience = Peace of Mind

Developing more patience has been a long-time personal pursuit. There’s no formula I can recommend. It takes diligence. It takes commitment. It takes attention. Mostly it takes remembering. Lately, I noticed I’ve been sliding back into some old habits of impatience. On closer examination, they’re predictable. I’ve often written about the power of patience because I have experienced that impatience […]
February 26, 2015

Building Resiliency through Emotional Awareness

  Resiliency. The ability to spring back from and successfully adapt to adversity. A return to balance. Emotional Buoyancy. Flexibility. Are we what we feel? While that may be a rhetorical question, there is truth behind it.  Because advancing emotional understanding is a central theme in my work, these pages have often explored many facets of expanding emotional awareness. First and […]
March 21, 2013

A Different Kind of Spring Detox

“Spring has returned. The earth is like a child that knows poems. Rainer Maria Rilke     In this part of the world we celebrate the Spring Equinox this week.  Renewal, growth and beginnings all come to mind when we think about spring. For the winter-weary, spring brings relief that the harsh weather is close to an end.  The promise […]
August 16, 2012

Get Civil: The Office isn’t Your Living Room

“You can deny all you want that there is etiquette, and a lot of people do in everyday life. But if you behave in a way that offends the people you’re trying to deal with, they will stop dealing with you…There are plenty of people who say, ‘We don’t care about etiquette, but we can’t stand the way so-and-so behaves, […]
June 21, 2012

WORKING SCARED

“There is no data showing that anxious, fearful employees are more creative and productive, but there is data proving that employees in a threatening environment are less engaged, less loyal and for the most part miserable.”         Mary Prefontane This post is inspired by Bill Maher. Yes, that’s right, Bill Maher, the irreverent, super-sharp, potty mouthed host of […]
November 3, 2011

The Bullies Among Us

 In every nook and cranny of the workplace – private, public and non-profit – bullies are dominating their co-workers, often with the tacit and explicit approval of management. I feel compelled to write something about these toxic behaviors that are permeating our schools and workplaces.  Within the past two years, in nearly every public seminar my company conducts and in […]
September 15, 2011

How Your Workspace Affects How You Feel

  Before I worked from home and was able to control my workspace, I had a long history of “redecorating” every single office space I ever worked in. Regardless of the size or circumstances, office environment was so important to me that I simply could not work comfortably without personalizing my space.  Even in the most cramped and undesirable spaces, […]
August 18, 2011

Anxiety & the Quest for Certainty

 “The quest for certainty blocks the search for meaning. Uncertainty is the very condition that impels us to unfold our powers.”    Erich Fromm Most of us would agree that whatever we do, we cannot predict the future. Yet, many of us spend an inordinate amount of time trying to control the uncontrollable.  This is a waste of our time and although […]
July 21, 2011

Your Vacation State of Mind

Everything is a state of mind. Your vacation, whether you are hiking, lying on a beach, stting at an outdoor cafe in France or simply “staycationing” at home with a good book reflects your state of mind.  Generally we tend to think of a vacation based on the externals – amount of time we have off from work, our budget, […]