September 4, 2014

How Much Does Fear Motivate Your Choices in Life?

Lately I’ve been reflecting on this question. It’s an important one. Maybe less important when you’re 25 (though I wish I had kept it in the forefront of my mind at that age) but I can’t think how asking it doesn’t reveal what we are hiding, avoiding or displacing at any age. Nearly everywhere I look online I see references […]
July 25, 2014

Knowing What You Really Want

In earlier writings on self-compassion, I asked what I consider to be a core question, Have I loved my life enough? Another way of asking this is – Have I loved myself enough? Either question takes you down the same path. All of life is driven by needs. Needs energize our life, generate motivation and shape the meaning of our experiences. […]
July 16, 2014

Why Today’s Workplace Needs Emotional Intelligence More Than Ever!

We learn a lot from our clients.  Their insights and experiences are our primary lifeline to what is happening at every level in today’s workplace. And too often, what we hear isn’t pretty. Overworked, overburdened, stressed, exhausted, cynical, pessimistic, untrusting, disengaged, resentful, frustrated, fearful and angry are common descriptions too many people give us.  Since we began integrating Emotional Intelligence […]
June 6, 2014

Your Beliefs Run Your Life But You Can Change the Story

“You see everything is about belief, whatever we believe rules our existence, rules our life.        Don Miguel Ruiz, author The 4 Agreements “What’s the most resilient parasite? An idea. A single idea from the human mind can build cities. An idea can transform the world and rewrite all the rules. Which is why I have to steal it.”  From the film Inception Remember […]
May 29, 2014

Curiousity~the Go-To Emotion (Reprise)

“The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity.  Dorothy Parker I was a really curious kid. How about you? They say all kids (and apparently cats) are curious. Of course that’s true (I mean about the kids, I don’t know enough about cats to make that claim) but I was a very curious kid. I always […]
April 10, 2014

Acceptance ~ Enabling Peace

Acceptance has a bad rap. In cultures where progress and improvement are a constant quest, accepting  what is  seems passive. Those of us who grew up in fix-it, more-is-better cultures still bristle at the idea of  “letting go.” For a long time I justified “arguing with reality” because I told myself I was a passionate, strong-willed person who was driven to make […]
March 13, 2014

BeFriending Anger – The Emotions Series Reprise

“Anger can be a wonderful wake up call to help you to understand what you need and what you value.” Thich Nhat Hahn For seven years I regularly facilitated seminars on conflict resolution.  Most of the group participants wanted answers to problems they saw as the source of their conflict. Usually this had to do with fixing the behavior of another person. Imagine […]
March 11, 2014

The Starting Point for Empathy is You

In a series of articles,  we’ve explored some reasons to consciously act on developing our empathic skills.  We cannot expect to extend our empathy to others in the fullest sense unless we are capable of giving it to ourselves first. The reality is that we are often as hard on ourselves as we are on others.  We’ve often joked that if we sat […]
February 20, 2014

5 Reasons Why Business Can’t Afford to Ignore Psychology for Another 100 Years

“The problem with business is that it is afraid of dealing with the business of people.”   W. Edwards Deming Honestly, I  don’t get it. Why is so much of business still in the dark about the basics of human dynamics? Appyling awareness of human psychology to work is moving at a glacial pace while technology flies by it at […]