May 3, 2022
“Our language is holographic. Each word contains not only the wide context of paragraph and sentence but the deeper context of our lives. When you interact with someone, their initial words carry the entire hologram of their consciousness.” William Isaacs, Dialogue and the Art of Thinking Together Dialogue is an overused term for a very specific means of communication that […]
February 20, 2022
“The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity. Dorothy Parker I was a really curious kid. How about you? They say all kids are curious. Of course that’s true, but I was a very curious kid. I always wanted to know WHY. Why is it raining here but not there? Why can’t I eat dessert before […]
December 6, 2021
“When patterns are broken new worlds emerge” Tuli Kuperberg What does a “who dunnit” in a work team have to do with a global conflict, or for that matter, any conflict? Looking at any major conflict one easily sees that they are usually convoluted, long-standing and seemingly intractable. Too often, most attempts at dealing with conflict boil down to these “strategies” […]
October 18, 2021
No one can harm you , not even your own worst enemy, as much as your own mind untrained. And no one can help you, not even your most loving mother and father, as much as your own mind well-trained. The Buddha Before we begin, let me ask you an important question – what makes your world? I know it’s a […]
October 11, 2021
I’ve often written about the slow death of command and control leadership – envisioning the demise of that mindset as the prevailing force in organizational life. It is slow going – isn’t it? At least it feels that way to me – even as an “observer” in my role as a consultant. The power issue hangs over us. Although there […]
July 25, 2021
In earlier writings on self-compassion, I asked what I consider to be a core question, Have I loved my life enough? Another way of asking this is – Have I loved myself enough? Either question takes you down the same path.All of life is driven by needs. Needs energize our life, generate motivation and shape the meaning of our experiences. Too […]
July 16, 2021
We learn a lot from our clients. Their insights and experiences are our primary lifeline to what is happening at every level in today’s workplace. And too often, what we hear isn’t pretty. Overworked, overburdened, stressed, exhausted, cynical, pessimistic, untrusting, disengaged, resentful, frustrated, fearful and angry are common descriptions too many people give us. Since we began integrating Emotional Intelligence […]
May 9, 2021
There’s an emotion that can make big changes in your life. It’s the emotion that many people I work with identify as desirable – in themselves – and in others. This emotion doesn’t have the transcendent quality of awe and wonder – it works more quietly to soothe your anxiety and help you to see yourself and your surroundings with […]
March 13, 2021
“Anger can be a wonderful wake up call to help you to understand what you need and what you value.” Thich Nhat Hahn For seven years I regularly facilitated seminars on conflict resolution. Most of the group participants wanted answers to problems they saw as the source of their conflict. Usually this had to do with fixing the behavior of another person. […]