December 3, 2015

What Does it Mean to Live in the Age of Empathy?

If we are living in a so-called Age of Empathy – what does that mean? What does it mean for an individual, a co-worker, an employer, a neighbor, a city or a world society to live with empathy in the face of such harsh daily realities? What will we do differently in our personal and social lives? What kind of […]
December 4, 2014

The Scarcity Mindset is Killing Us

Which world view dominates our collective mindset – one of scarcity or abundance? Which world view dominates your personal mindset? It’s an important question because this core world view is easily the mother-ship of most of the beliefs that shape our existence. What you believe; what we believe, determines much of how we act. The world we inhabit today is […]
October 30, 2014

Question The Answers ~ The Importance of Critical Thinking

It strikes me that this is an era of pressing choices – personal and collective.  Conditioned and habituated thinking cannot address the complexities we face. We’re  caught up in old, polarized, dualistic thinking that is not only an impediment to our growth – but regressive and potentially dangerous.  How do we make complex decisions in the face of such pressure? […]
October 2, 2014

Humility ~ from The Emotions Series

I often write about emotions. In fact, at the heart of my work and this blog, is the effort to illuminate emotional life and provide a space for conversation about feelings.  While many articles focus on specific emotions like, anger, envy, jealously and resentment – and fear, especially fear –  it’s as important to round out the range of human […]
September 25, 2014

What Blocks Our Empathy?

Recently my lack of empathy for someone really surprised me. No matter how I cognitively reframed the subject, I was stuck.  It wasn’t until I became more consciously present to the other feelings  I had about this person – that I was able to soften the picture. I felt uncomfortable with my lack of kindness in this situation and wanted […]
September 11, 2014

We’re Up Against our Mindsets

Looking around the news of the world, I see three basic “camps.”  I’m thinking of these “camps” as ways of reacting/responding to the fast-changing world we all face today. The first I’ll call the “Stand Your Ground” camp. This camp is generally uninterested in change. It’s mainly reactive to the world as it unfolds, always strategizing how to maintain the […]
September 4, 2014

How Much Does Fear Motivate Your Choices in Life?

Lately I’ve been reflecting on this question. It’s an important one. Maybe less important when you’re 25 (though I wish I had kept it in the forefront of my mind at that age) but I can’t think how asking it doesn’t reveal what we are hiding, avoiding or displacing at any age. Nearly everywhere I look online I see references […]
July 25, 2014

Knowing What You Really Want

In earlier writings on self-compassion, I asked what I consider to be a core question, Have I loved my life enough? Another way of asking this is – Have I loved myself enough? Either question takes you down the same path. All of life is driven by needs. Needs energize our life, generate motivation and shape the meaning of our experiences. […]
May 29, 2014

Curiousity~the Go-To Emotion (Reprise)

“The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity.  Dorothy Parker I was a really curious kid. How about you? They say all kids (and apparently cats) are curious. Of course that’s true (I mean about the kids, I don’t know enough about cats to make that claim) but I was a very curious kid. I always […]