May 2, 2013

Mindful Feedback

Most people don’t respond positively to feedback (a.k.a criticism). The expanding knowledge we have about how the brain works is helping us to understand why. Even under the BEST of circumstances, many of us find ourselves recoiling in response to hearing what others think about us.  Our receptivity depends on context, relationships and circumstances – but the greatest factor is […]
March 28, 2013

The Workplace (and the World) are Starving for Real Dialogue

“Our language is holographic. Each word contains not only the wide context of paragraph and sentence but the deeper context of our lives. When you interact with someone, their initial words carry the entire hologram of their consciousness.”  William Isaacs, Dialogue and the Art of Thinking Together  
February 20, 2013

Curiosity – the Go-To Emotion

“The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity.  Dorothy Parker I was a really curious kid. How about you? They say all kids (and apparently cats) are curious. Of course that’s true (I mean about the kids, I don’t know enough about cats to make that claim) but I was a very curious kid. I always […]
February 13, 2013

How is Your Workplace Limiting Your Emotional Freedom?

Note: In my last post, I Want to Know More About You, I referenced research that looked at the ways in which emotional repression is built into our social landscape, especially affecting men. So I decided to reprise the article below because the more I experience, the more emotional suppression I see in every type of workplace. It’s woven into […]
December 20, 2012

Silence & A Blessing for One Who is Exhausted

< I wanted to share a poem about silence and peace. Not only ’tis the season, but we’re all in need of more of both. In this beautiful (regardless of your season or hemisphere) scene one can feel the solace of deep peace.  In searching for words I come back to an old metaphorical friend, the late poet and great […]
December 6, 2012

Resolving Conflict: Going Beyond "Who Started It?"

“When patterns are broken new worlds emerge” Tuli Kuperberg What does a “who dunnit” in a work team have to do with a global conflict, or for that matter, any conflict? Looking at any major conflict one easily sees that they are usually convoluted, long-standing and seemingly intractable.  Working with many team and organizational conflicts one finds many of them to […]
October 4, 2012

Impatience and Frustration ~ From the Emotions Series

‘We never live; we are always in the expectation of living.’~ Voltaire  Pick an emotion – any emotion that characterizes how you feel during your workday. When you become aware of what you feel while you work, which emotion do you experience most often? Impatience.  Frustration.  That’s what most people I work with choose.  If you were able to select […]
September 6, 2012

How are Today’s Workplaces Managing the Crisis of Mental Health?

I’m gobsmacked (as my British friends would say) after reading the recent Wall St Journal article, Managing Mental Health at Work. If you research the issue of mental health in the workplace you’ll turn up some alarming statistics and little in the way of hopeful solutions.  I’m not naïve, but honestly, I thought we’d be further along the evolutionary path […]
August 9, 2012

Positive vs. Negative Thinking: It Isn’t Either/Or

‘Henceforth I ask not good-fortune, I myself am good-fortune.’ ~Walt Whitman Lately, the nature of positive thinking has been on my mind. Two weeks ago, I wrote about it in Redefining Optimism in the Face of Reality. Then, last Sunday, I came across this article, “The Power of Negative Thinking,” in the most emailed section of the New York Times. In […]