September 1, 2019
“Cynicism is an unproductive reaction to disappointment. It springs from the helplessness people feel when they are disappointed by others and allow themselves to become detached observers rather than active participants.” Jamie & Maren Showkeir Have you become a cynic? If so, you’ve got plenty of company. Some might call this the era of cynicism. Some might even say, that’s […]
August 11, 2019
I’m a believer. Living more mindfully has changed my perspective on life. I practice (and practice) and I support others, whenever possible, to find the ways that work for them to be more mindful. My motivation, of course, is deeply personal – as everyone’s should be. But I have another “agenda.” When I look around at the state of the […]
July 19, 2019
The habit of looking to the future and thinking that the whole meaning of the present lies in what it will bring forth is a pernicious one. There can be no value in the whole unless there is value in the parts. BERTRAND RUSSELL, Conquest of Happiness Way…back in 2012 Tim Kreiders’ New York Times article, The Busy Trap, generated a lot […]
July 8, 2019
“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?” “That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat. “I don’t much care where -” said Alice. “Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat Working with clients we often find the question – what do you really […]
June 27, 2019
Continuing the conversation started in Part 1 of this article – several key questions keep surfacing. One is the often unspoken tension between EI (Emotional Intelligence) and what is typically thought of as “therapy.” For anyone who has been involved in a therapeutic process, it’s immediately clear that learning and applying EI principles is very different from being “in therapy.” […]
May 20, 2019
“The voice in the head tells a story that the body believes in and reacts to. Those reactions are the emotions. The emotions, in turn, feed the energy back to the thoughts that created the emotion in the first place. This is the vicious circle between unexamined thoughts and emotions, giving rise to emotional thinking and emotional story-making.” Eckhart […]
March 11, 2019
Every blog has its “hits” – this article is one of those often clicked. At times I wonder though – should I be pleased about this – or concerned? Granted, envy, jealousy and resentment are three very powerful feelings. Even the Bible mentions them. Envy and jealousy are two of the Seven Deadly Sins, aren’t they? Even animals display behaviors […]
March 1, 2019
Every day countless words are dedicated to writing about the economics of work. The conversation about the future of work is a perennial “hot topic.” But when it comes to exploring the meaning of work, the search engine slows down. It’s a challenging task because what we call work has changed dramatically in the last generation. Just as when the […]
February 6, 2019
In 1995, Emotional Intelligence: Why it Can Matter More than IQ by Daniel Goleman was published. The introduction of Emotional Intelligence (EI) generated excitement and hope. It’s time to look at the progress and future of this work. As a student of psychology and social systems, EI (Emotional Intelligence) had immediate resonance with my experience and offered some of what I believed […]